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I will say that Sophia Bush is absolutely one of the classiest women in Hollywood. Say what you will but she stands up for charities that she believes in, she stands up, that simple. She stands up and says what is on her mind, she gives a voice to those who don’t have one.
One thing that she has never really spoken about was her failed marriage to former ‘One Tree Hill’ co-star Chad Michael Murray. The couple were married and within a few months they had divorced. It was very public, there were many rumors and considering Chad moved on quickly, it just added fuel to the fire. The exes had to work together on the same show for like 5 years after but the former couple just stayed quiet.
It looks like Sophia is kind of ready to talk about it, although she isn’t bashing her ex. Instead she is opening up about love and how love isn’t easy.
In Cosmopolitan magazine, Sophia wrote an essay about why we should stop seeking “the one”.
Here is her excerpt about Chad Michael Murray.
“In my 20s, when I was starting out my career as an actor, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but one found me and became serious, even though I hadn’t planned to settle down until my 30s. But when the person you’re with asks you to marry him, you think: This must be happening because it’s supposed to.
But I refuse to let that one relationship define me, which is why I’ve done my best to avoid discussing it for 10 years. The reality is that, yes, it was a massive event in my life. And the trauma of it was amplified by how public it became, which was incredibly foreign and bizarre to a girl who’d been just another college kid 24 months before her life blew up.”
My favorite line from the entire essay has to be this one.
” I came to appreciate that relationships often serve a specific purpose at a certain point in time, for myriad reasons. Some are meant to heal you, some are meant to teach you how to build yourself up, and some are meant to show you how to trust your own intuition.”
Thank you for writing this Sophia, I think that this is important for the new generation especially. We are meant to believe that we need to find “the one”, when you should really just focus on loving yourself, everything else will fall into place.
Again, if you want to read the whole essay which I think you should do, click here!